Happy Birthday Hal (edited 6:15 p.m.)

Today is my hubby's b-day. (edits in red)

We are having the children over for supper. (Julia and Ronnie - we will miss you.)
That is his preference. He is actually going to grill out. (Remember - I do not grill)
He would rather do that than go out to eat.??? Since it is HIS day - we will do what he wants.

*** since I went to the hospital yesterday (the 15th) with chest pains - this is all wrong.
Julia came home - so Ronnie - we miss you! Jen and Andy and Aubrey are not here either.

***No grill - Thank you so much Anita for a wonderful Lasagna supper!*(that is actually one of my favorites!)

***Sorry - Hal - we will celebrate your birthday on Monday night - and let you grill some steaks for us then! :)

So... Happy Birthday, Hal! I love you!

Fireproof - the Movie

We went to see this movie this past weekend. We both highly recommend that you go see it. I am not one who buys very many dvd's but this one is on my list to purchase as soon as it comes out.

If you have already seen it too - leave a comment and let me know what you think about it.

Go to http://www.fireproofthemovie.com/ for more information.

Oh, and by the way...I will be posting about the first poll results tomorrow. And I am working on the next poll. Thanks to all of you who responded.

F.Y.I.

April 14, 1974... (yes - 1974). Hal asked me to "go steady."


I was 15... he was 17. You do the math. He did not know how "steady" we would be, huh?

Just thought you might like to know :)

I may try to find a picture and scan it in...

Ladies - Love your husband

"It (our salvation experience) should determine every decision that we make...."

Like how will we treat our husbands? How will we honor them? How will we love them? How will we "do them good and not evil" all the days of our lives?

Sometimes the Amplified Bible helps in really "seeing" a passage. "...and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband - that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly." Ephesians 5:33b

Did you notice that this does not say "and let the wife..... if he is a Godly man/husband." It does not say "and let the wife....if he is doing what he needs to do." That is where we get off track so easily. We want to measure how we do - by how he is doing. If he is good to me - then I will be good to him...... and on, and on, and on.

Now, do not get me wrong, if I were writing or speaking to the men - it would be easy to tell them (and I have on many occasions) - that if the husband will love the wife like Christ loved the church his precious wife will have no trouble submitting to/loving him. But ladies that is not the topic today. Nor is it our responsibility to tell our husbands such. We are told to love our husbands. To respect and reverence him. To notice him and honor him. Now look at this next one - to prefer him. (think about that one for a while) To defer to him, praise him, love and admire him exceedingly.

When was the last time that you took the time to just admire YOUR husband. See him through the eyes that first attracted you to him. He is the same man. Have you told him lately what you admire about him? He needs your sincere praise. (SINCERE) Ask the Lord to help you to focus on being the wife that God has called you to be.

Ladies - love your husband. When you get your eyes off of what he is or is not doing - and focus on what you are called to do - it sets you free! Or maybe I should say that it keeps us so busy working on ourselves that we no longer have time to worry about his role. My role is more than enough for me to handle :)

I will end with a thought that I read in a book years ago and have tried to keep it fresh in my mind. "I am not my husband's personal Holy Spirit. My job is to make him happy. The Lord will make him holy."

(The picture is from July 2006 - Just a few days after our 30th anniversary)


Ponder those thoughts with me - and let me hear from you.

Husbands

Ok Ladies,

I have been praying and thinking and thinking and praying about how to approach this last topic from the quote.

"It is the event that should determine every other decision that child will make--from how she will spend the Sabbath to how she spends her money, from her choice of clothes to her choice of a husband...."

Her choice of a husband.... We certainly should teach this truth to our daughters and to the young ladies in our lives that we may influence. Their salvation should help determine their choice of a husband. We can speak with authority from the Word of God that he should be a Christian. A Christian girl is not to be unequally yoked with a non-believer. But not just a Christian...he should be a Godly man...that she can respect...because if she does not respect him, then how will she ever submit to him? He should be a leader for her. He should have a vision of his mission in life. She should share the same mission. If they are to be "one flesh".... they need to be on the same page for their lives together. Individuals - yes - but on the same journey to be like Christ and to serve Him together with their gifts and talents. Their jobs/vocations will certainly be different. I am not talking about that. I mean their vision for serving the Lord. However, with that in mind, we need to also remember that this is a process - for all of us- men and women alike. We have not "arrived" - we are just on the journey. God is not through with us yet - so make sure that we also teach them to see the potential in the person. We should ask the Lord to help us see them through His eyes. It sure helps to keep us from gaining a "holier than Thou attitude".

But for this blog...most of the ladies who come and visit with me are already married. Your choice of a husband has already been made. So with that in mind, I really want to go in a different direction and add some other thoughts. "It (our salvation experience) should determine every decision that we make...." Like how will we treat our husbands? How will we honor them? How will we love them? How will we "do them good and not evil" all the days of our lives?

That is where I am going on the next few blogs... but have to go for now... My precious grandbaby is awake and needing me :)

Maybe I will be back later tonight...while the thoughts are flowing!

Let me know your thoughts, I love hearing from you...
and if you want private discussion, you are welcome to email me.

Blessings to you all,
DeeDee